Posted by: 지인 | 25 June 2009

The politics of hair

From CNN’s “Black in America 2”:

In the black culture, a richness of hairstory

“I don’t want people to look at her and tell she has white parents.”

Posted by: 지인 | 11 March 2009

“Chosen.” Right.

From’s Celebrity Baby Blog:

Kelly Clarkson Has ‘No Desire’ For Children

Unlike many of her American Idol alumni, Kelly Clarkson says that having a child isn’t high on her list of priorities; In fact, it might not be on her list at all! “Oh my God, I have no desire,” the 26-year-old songstress tells USA Today. “I would not be a good mother.” Instead, Kelly enjoys being an aunt to her niece and nephew, and feels that the demands of her career would not be conducive to motherhood.

“I used to want to, like, adopt 10 kids – because I had friends who were adopted, and I thought that was the coolest thing, to be chosen. But again, my job is too selfish.”

Posted by: 지인 | 27 February 2009

“Ungrateful” orphans

Orphanage director to Afghan orphans: You’re ungrateful.


At hearing on adoption law, frustration and calls for change

By Shin Hae-in
SEOUL, Feb. 26 (Yonhap) — Local experts and adoptees expressed frustration Thursday at a public hearing on South Korea’s antiquated adoption law over the country’s lack of child protection programs and the slow pace of change.

Since the 1950s, South Korea has sent away the largest number of children for international adoption in the world, with over 150,000 Korean children ending up in 20 different Western countries, according to state data.

Despite its lengthy history with adoption, the country has yet to ratify a 1993 Hague Convention on child protection because its adoption law, established in 1969, does not meet several preconditions. The accord has been signed by some 73 countries. …

[Read the full article on Jane’s blog.]

Posted by: 지인 | 31 December 2008

Another one bites the dust

Someone recently remarked to me, “It’s too bad you’re not blogging anymore.” Which gave me pause. It’s true, I have been a bad blogger, practically to the point where I no longer feel qualified to call myself a blogger at all. Former blogger? Fair-weather blogger? Fugitive blogger? Blogger-at-large?

2008 was a big year for the nonprofit organization I’ve been helping to nurture and cultivate for the past few years, as we played host to an international assemblage of 100 adult adoptees of Asian heritage, plus a few hundred more public attendees, at the Asian Adult Adoptee Gathering and Film Festival here on O’ahu this past October. Now that it’s all over and done with, I’ll be quite unmodest in acknowledging the amount of blood, sweat and tears we spilled in planning and executing this not-so-mini-gathering, not to mention the accompanying film festival, which was the first to exclusively feature films written, produced or directed by Asian adoptees.

This endeavor was something we developed over the course of a year, and only those who have been directly involved with organizing a large-ish event starting with $0 will understand the scope of what is required — from the shameless self-promotion and prostrating for contract negotiations and fundraising, to the last-minute do-it-yourselfing, to putting out the eleventh-hour fires and real-time mini-fires. And all of this was accomplished by an unpaid, all-volunteer band of five nonprofit soldiers with full-time jobs, families and other outside commitments. I’m extremely proud of my teammates’ hard work and the way we all had one another’s backs when the going got tough. (And we’re all still friends!)

I guess it’s really no wonder I did so little blogging this year. It just occurred to me that I didn’t even manage to remember to promote the gathering and film fest here on my own blog, at least beyond the tiny banner on the side. Oops.

Anyway, outside of that little project, it was a pretty good year. Yobo and I visited two out of three of our families (no trip to Korea this year), logged some QT with friends who visited O’ahu, and finally dove into some home-remodeling projects we’d been talking about for three years. (Need your floors tiled? New cabinetry installed? Please, please don’t call me. I mean, I know how to do it, but I’d really rather not.)

Although I continue to do battle with my post-gathering-and-film-festival burnout, I’m keeping busy. My writing continues to take me away from the blogosphere — but not too far, I suppose, depending on how you see things. Perhaps if you’re keeping up with your adoption-related reading offline, you might see me around. (If that seems vague and/or mysterious, it’s because I intended it to seem just so, at least for the time being.)

The funny thing is that I’ll have a lot more to potentially blog about in 2009, but much less time and energy to actually do it. Life marches on, you know, and it takes on new shapes and meanings.

So, as 2008 bites the dust and 2009 edges its way in, here’s wishing you a year of hope and new perspective, truth and greater understanding, prosperity and better prospects, and happiness, love and Hello Kitty waffles for all.

Happy New Year!

Posted by: 지인 | 18 December 2008

Media buzzards

From the latest CNN article following up on Anna He:

Since her parents split, Anna has re-established regular contact with the Bakers, who call every Saturday. But after more than a year with her biological family, Anna is still unsure of where she would rather be — with her mom or the Bakers.

“I cannot pick anyone. I would die if I would pick one,” she said.

From another recent Associated Press article on Anna’s life in China:

When asked about the Bakers, Anna pulls away. She rolls onto her back. She covers her face with her hands. She says she has forgotten what it was like when she moved from one family to the other, and whether she was happy or sad.

“I don’t even know,” she says.

From my imagination:

When asked to choose between the Bakers and the Hes and to state whether she loves or hates them and is happy or sad about her past and current situations and to rank the United States and China on a two-point scale of worst to best, Anna unleashes an indescribable but deafening noise that shatters the reporter’s digital recording device, not to mention eardrums.

“What a pointless f*cking bunch of questions. Get a clue, get out of my house, and leave me the f*ck alone,” she says.

Posted by: 지인 | 30 November 2008

I’m thankful for …

… among many other things …

something in the oven

Happy holidays.

From the fabulous Lisa Marie Rollins and AFAAD:

November 7-9, 2008

1st Annual Gathering for Adoptees and Foster Care Alums of African Descent:

Healing Ourselves, Making Connections

Announcing the 1st annual gathering of adoptees (transracial/international and same race) and foster care alums of African descent in Oakland, California, November 7-9, 2008.

AFAAD (Adopted and Fostered Adults of the African Diaspora) was formed specifically to support adopted and fostered people, to share our common and divergent experiences around race, adoption, joy, loss, family, search and reunion, and self identity and to celebrate our unique creativity, stories and community. AFAAD’s First Annual Gathering, Healing Ourselves, Making Connections is designed with you mind.

The purpose of this historic gathering will be to make connections, network, provide healing space, and to celebrate the diversity of our amazing diaspora of transracial, international, domestic adoptees and foster care alums. AFAAD uses “Black” in the widest diasporic sense, which includes African, African American, bi-racial and multi heritage, Afroasian and Afrolatino peoples. Healing Ourselves, Making Connections is the first of its kind for Black adoptees and foster adults and we know it will make a huge contribution to the conversations about adoption, race, social welfare and African diasporic identity – not to mention just bringing all of us together in one space is going to be amazing! It is time to share our stories with one another, rather than always teaching other people. We will also take some time for the strategic planning for the long-term goals of AFAAD as a social justice and community support organization.


AFAAD’s 2008 Gathering is being hosted by the lovely Washington Inn, at 495 10th Street, Oakland CA a luxury boutique hotel ideally situated at the center of downtown Oakland, CA, close to all forms of public transportation. See for more information, or call 510.452.1776. Individuals visiting the Bay Area must make their own hotel reservations separately from AFAAD Gathering registration.

For all the details, visit AFAAD’s website:

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