About This Blog

I considered naming this blog after my previous one, or at least continuing the rice theme in some way. But ultimately, neither Twice the Rice v. 2.0 nor Screw the Rice, Let’s Get Burgers! resonated with me.

Although I cannot lay out any binding rules for what I will or will not write about here, I can offer these very basic thoughts:

1. As expected: I anticipate that many of my blog entries may focus largely on adoption. As a writer, an editor, and a transracially, transnationally adopted Korean American who is actively involved with the global Korean adoptee community and adult adoptee organization leadership, I embrace blogging and the Internet as effective and powerful tools for sharing ideas and building community among fellow adoptees and our allies.

2. Adoptive parents: Please know that this blog is not written expressly for you. Be forewarned that making demands about how much personal information I disclose or policing how I express myself will not get you very far! This blog is not written for others’ personal benefit or comfort, nor is it written with you and your specific family in mind. No one is never barred from reading, of course. Nor is any reader barred from making thoughtful comments if s/he thinks s/he truly has something valuable to add. Adoptive parents, remember that young adoptees, such as your children, will grow up to be adult adoptees, like (or perhaps unlike) me. They might not share my opinions, but on the other hand, they might. Adopted children grow up, yes, but they never stop being adoptees.

3. “So, does that mean you wish you hadn’t been adopted?”: This blog is not about my families, American or Korean. Any ideas, criticisms or otherwise related thoughts or opinions regarding adoption, adoption policy/practice or postadoption practices that I put forth here or elsewhere are not to be interpreted as direct reflections on my “satisfaction level” or relationship with my adoptive parents. In fact, the fact that I feel confident and informed enough to participate in critical discussion of adoption practices and ethnic/cultural identity attests to the support and encouragement I have received from my loved ones, to question outdated systems and to write my own story rather than settle for one written for me.

4. What’s mine is … well, mine: This blog belongs to me. Although I welcome and take much pleasure in engaging fellow adoptees, allies and friends in thoughtful, supportive and creative discussion and commentary, and intend to promote a respectful environment for all those who reciprocate, I do not entertain any sort of obligation to allow “air time” for others. Some of my blog entries will be open to comments while others will be closed.

5. Further thoughts on commenting: I consider it exceedingly disrespectful and arrogant when drive-by commenters channeling Dr. Phil drop by a blog for a post or two and decide to tell adult adoptees to “move on,” to “seek therapy,” or to “get over,” “stop dwelling on,” or “stop obsessing over” adoption. Just as we all recognize that adoption is not the sum total of one’s life, one’s blog is not the sum total of one’s life, and to mistake the dominant theme of a blogger’s blog entries for a précis of the writer’s “real-life” existence is a foolish and ill-informed thing indeed. That said, think of it this way: I’ll “get over” being adopted when I get over being a woman. I will “move on” from being a transracial adoptee when I move on from being a sister, a daughter, a partner, a mother and a friend. And I expect that we adoptees will consider stopping the “adoption talk” on the day when adoption is no longer necessary.

6. Refer to my inaugural post for further non-declarations of intent.

So enough, now, with the enumerated formalities. I’ve got some writing to do.

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