Comments on: It’s International Sh*tty Adoptive Parent Month

By: Mads

Mads — Tue, 25 Dec 2007 13:10:00 +0000

This is a horrible tragedy… But I really dislike how this article was started.

By: Ji In

Ji In — Sun, 23 Dec 2007 22:10:25 +0000

Rrrgh, I saw that article, too, DF. Of course they are innocent. They were working to save her from the clutches of whatever mysterious, evil ailment she’d developed in medically archaic Korea.

“This is a child that we worked extremely hard to get into the country, and then tried extremely hard to find out what medically was wrong with her.”

Love that. In other words, how could the wife possibly have harmed a child they paid so much to get? As if the saintly act of adoption exonerates one from suspicion.

By: darthfoofie

darthfoofie — Sun, 23 Dec 2007 20:03:18 +0000

Read this article.

http://www.indystar.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=2007712180411

I so would like to use the dark side of the force on a couple of people right now.

By: Ji In

Ji In — Mon, 17 Dec 2007 22:24:08 +0000

I agree. That part stuck out at me, too. Damn 13-month-old Korean babies! The advertisement in “Stereotype” magazine said they’d be subservient and a parent’s dream come true! Work, damnit! Work! *smack shake smack*

By: sume

sume — Mon, 17 Dec 2007 19:30:31 +0000

Yeah, don’t you just love how (again) that flawed adoptee element is thrown in there? There’s so much wrong with this story that I don’t even know where to begin.

I had similar thoughts to Mama Nabi. My kids entered the no-stage early. It’s a perfectly natural stage for children to go through. Why should Hei Min be any different?

“Mrs. Kyrie advised that it has always been a dream or goal of hers to adopt a child.”

and that always sends up a red flag.

By: Mama Nabi

Mama Nabi — Mon, 17 Dec 2007 16:37:16 +0000

“…David Kyrie told detectives that “Chaeli is stubborn and it was hard to get her to do anything.”…”

y’know… when LN was 13 months old, she had just learned how to take her first steps… in fact, I have a video clip of her dancing to ABBA’s Dancing Queen, holding onto our entertainment rack, I’m begging her to sit her ass down since she was shaking that booty too hard for someone who just learned how to walk – and, boy, she was one stubborn little thing, glanced back at me defiantly and refused to sit down. I have proof… and I’m willing to bet everything I hold dear that her bio-kids have exhibited that ’stubborn streak’ at that age.
He’s not offering that as some kind of excuse/explanation, is he? Did they think, since they were adopting from Korea, they’d be getting a ‘ready-made subservient Asian baby’, easy to raise? I mean, did they really expect a 13 month old baby to follow their instructions to a T? Did they underestimate the amount of anxiety (including separation) in an infant and weren’t able to accommodate?
…and she is a bible dancer… I guess, that would have been a flag for me… but then, that’s just me.

Oh, the poor sweet little baby… sigh.

By: Mee Hee Park

Mee Hee Park — Mon, 17 Dec 2007 02:09:14 +0000

I HATE that there are mothers (let alone APs) who could actually lay their hands on an infant and shake the life out of them. BUT, I also HATE the fact that many of these women are on some sort of antidepressant or have been diagnosed with some sort of mental illness. THESE WOMEN ARE NOT MAKING MAINSTREAM PEOPLE WITH DEPRESSION LOOK GOOD! GAHHHH!!!

And this:

“…a regular churchgoer who performed dance interpretations of Bible stories at Church of Praise in Eagletown.”

umm, excuse me? dude, that doesn’t strike me as the best show of mental stability either. interpretive biblical dances? yikes!!!

Poor baby girl–she looks so happy and bubbley in her picture…WHY WOULD SOMEONE DO THAT?!??!?!?!